Libras are one of the most loving, romantic, and sensitive signs of the zodiac. They are sweet, affectionate, and always go the extra mile for the people they love. However, because of their inherently flirtatious nature and elegant way with words, Libra men have a reputation for being playboys.
Ruled by Venus, the planet of love, beauty, and desire, Libras believe in unconditional love and are constantly on the lookout for romantic relationships. They are shameless flirts who are devilishly dashing and tremendously charming. They are the epitome of a serial monogamist and are rarely single. Love, companionship, and affection are like air to them.
The modern dating landscape is littered with these mole rats digging through hole after hole. If you want to tread this minefield more carefully and avoid unnecessary heartbreaks, you must first be honest with yourself on what you truly want out of a relationship.
Being loved by a Libra man can be exhilarating and blissful because when they fall in love, they love hard. However, when they’re not into you but still keep you on the hook, it can be distressing and a major waste of your time. Here are some surefire signs that a Libra man is playing you.
1. He Keeps His Options Open
For a Libra man, flirting is some kind of art form. He enjoys this delicate mental dance of salacious back and forth with another person. It’s his primary way of connecting with other people. A Libra man also has a propensity to be easily dazzled by outward appearance. If he sees someone attractive, he’ll surely shower her with compliments.
Even if he doesn’t mean to give the wrong impression, it seems to come out naturally to him. He gives off a flirty vibe, but it doesn’t mean that he’s playing with you. However, if he blatantly flirts with other women in front of you, that’s undoubtedly an obvious sign that he’s not serious about you. If he is, he wouldn’t even dream of flirting with another girl. It’s that simple.
Another telltale sign that he’s just playing with you is if when you’re together, he ogles at other women, and he’s constantly on his phone chatting up girls on social media. He’s probably even on a dating app, and if you look at the people he follows, it’s a chock-full of girls. You might even find him dropping comments at a girl’s bikini picture, and if you try to confront him about it, he’ll just accuse you of being insecure.
If a man doesn’t take time to reassure you and seems to never run out of ways to make you feel not enough, that’s a clear sign that he’s just not into you. He probably just doesn’t have the guts to tell you upfront, or he just wants to keep you around for occasional booty calls.
2. He Doesn’t Communicate With You
If a Libra man is genuinely into you, he’d be stoked to share every little piece of information about his life with you. When something exciting, anger-inducing, or upsetting happens, you’re the first person he’d want to talk to.
However, if you’ve been dating a Libra man for a while and he has never once confessed his feelings or confided in you about his dark personal truths, it could simply mean that he’s not ready or he just has no intention of sharing any part of his life with you.
You may even catch him hiding the screen of his phone when you take a quick glance at it. Libra men are great communicators. If he wants you in his life, he will make it clear. But if you even had to ask him if he’s serious about this relationship, and he never gives you a straight answer, it’s time to walk away and move on.
3. He’s Not Emotionally Invested
He’s wishy-washy. After spending quite some time together, he’ll suddenly ghost you and suddenly reappear only to disturb your peace. He doesn’t pay attention when you tell him things, and you never talk about your future together.
Most of the time, you’re not on the same page. He acts cold around you, discards your feelings, neglects your concerns, and belittles your opinions. He’s never there when you need him, and he doesn’t care about your needs.
If you made it clear that you want an exclusive relationship, and he’s not willing to commit to you in the way you want, have the self-respect to walk away and remind yourself of what you deserve.
4. He’s Hiding You
It’s been quite some time since you started dating, and yet he still hasn’t introduced you to his friends or family. He won’t add you on social media. When you’re out together, and he sees someone he knows, he doesn’t introduce you as his girlfriend, or he tries to avoid that person altogether. When you ask him why he does that, he dances around the question and changes the subject.
If he never introduces you to his friends, it could be that he’s just a private person, or it’s highly likely that he’s cheating on someone using you or he’s involved with multiple girls at the exact same time. If a guy likes you, he will never make you feel like he’s ashamed of you, he’s not going to be secretive about your relationship, and he will treat you like a queen.
As flattering as it is to be with a dashingly handsome Libra man, you have to make sure you’re not just one of the roster of girls he screws around from time to time. You deserve respect, honesty, consistency, and reliability. If he’s unwilling to provide all those things for you, there are plenty of other men who would be honored to.
5. He Only Hits You Up For Sex
Another sign that a Libra man is playing you is that he only reaches out to you when he wants physical intimacy. He might be feeling bored, lonely, or horny, and he will try to smitten you with his words and charming appeal.
Now, there’s nothing wrong with wanting to engage in sexual activities, but there must be absolute honesty and alignment with the intention and expectation of both parties. You have to be honest with yourself on what you actually want; otherwise, you’ll just set yourself up for disappointment.
If it’s not an enthusiastic yes on your part and you’re not really interested in having a casual relationship with him, then you should say no. If you think this will somehow make him want to establish a long-term relationship with you, then you’re only kidding yourself. You deserve to have a partner who can make your heart, mind, and soul jizz.
6. Dodgy Behavior
One sign you should be wary of is when he starts lying about the very mundane stuff. He deletes any signs of you from his social media, and he hides his phone around you. He’s only there when he needs something from you, and after he gets what he wants, you don’t hear from him for long periods of time.
A man who has your best interest at heart will never do this. He will be there when you need him, and he will not do anything that will make you question your worth and make you feel that you have to earn his love and affection.
Libra men are highly social creatures. They enjoy engaging in debates, having stimulating conversations, and establishing deep connections. They are social butterflies and principled communicators. So if a Libra man finds you fascinating, he will definitely try to build rapport to fortify your foundation through dynamic communication.
If he’s not at all reaching out and attempting to formulate an intimate connection between the two of you, this is a clear indication that he’s just not into you, and it’s time to burn that bridge and keep on sailing elsewhere.
7. He Blows You Off
He doesn’t respect your time, and he constantly bails on you. He cancels plans at the last minute when you’re already dressed up and shaved. If he does show up, he’s often late. When you finally get together, he spends most of the time scrolling mindlessly through social media and ignoring you. He even has a hard time recognizing what he did wrong, holding accountability, and apologizing.
8. He Picks Out Your Flaws
Libra men tend to see things in rose-colored glasses when they’re in love. While it’s fun to tease someone on their quirks from time to time, constant nitpicking and bringing up past mistakes is a breeding ground for a highly dysfunctional relationship.
A Libra man has a predisposition to challenge everyone around him in a debate, but he doesn’t let it escalate into arguments. If your Libra man is constantly picking a fight with you and using your flaws, past mistakes, and baggage against you, it may be his way of pushing you to grow into the best version of you, or it could be an intentional, strategic method to push you away.
9. He Doesn’t Have Your Back
Like Leo and Aquarius, Libra is one of the zodiac’s humanitarian signs. They take pleasure in helping people and transmuting any negative energy into a positive one. If a man with this sun sign doesn’t support you in any situation, it’s a clear indication that he’s not serious about taking your relationship to the next level.
When a Libra man is captivated by you, he will do anything in his power to be there for you and help you become the best version of yourself. He will encourage you to chase your dreams, and he’ll constantly make an effort to make life easier for you.
10. Your Intuition Tells You
If you feel it deeply in your gut that they’re just playing you, you’re probably right. Stop ignoring your gut feelings because it’s trying to guide you and help you realign with your highest self. By tapping into your intuitive wisdom, you’ll save yourself from unnecessary pain, stress, and frustration.
If he’s truly into you, you’ll know. He will definitely make it obvious. He will make time for you, he will introduce you to the most important people in his life, he’ll remember everything you tell him, he will be protective of you, and he will definitely make an effort to make it clear to you.
If your Libra man exhibits the behaviors mentioned above, it’s highly likely that he’s just playing with you. Trust your gut instincts because if something doesn’t feel right, chances are it isn’t. Granted, this list of red flags is by no means exhaustive, and relationships are nuanced and complicated. However, these behaviors are definitely warning signs that you should look out for. The sooner you spot them, the less time you waste.