According to Sigmund Freud, dreams can reveal our innermost desires, unconscious thoughts, and repressed emotions. This is why dreams about cheating can often make us feel uneasy and trigger a sense of disturbance and emotional turmoil. It may leave you feeling guilty, confused, or angry.
Dreams about cheating can have a variety of interpretations depending on the dream’s context, your personal history, and current circumstances. According to neuropsychologist Dr. Sanaam Hafeez, having an affair in a dream could be an indication that something is missing from your relationship. It could be a lack of passion, novelty, or sexual intimacy in your current relationship.
Even though dreams about cheating don’t necessarily imply that this betrayal is acted upon in real life, this dream could still reflect some sort of wish fulfillment or feelings of loneliness and insecurity. Because dreams are believed to be the subconscious’ way of unloading your negative thoughts, emotions, and anxiety, dreams about cheating could give you an insight into your repressed emotions.
Dreams about Cheating- General Interpretations
To dream about cheating is often deemed revelatory of one’s dissatisfaction in their relationship. It’s possible that your emotional or sexual needs are not being met. Perhaps your partner has been inattentive, and you don’t have the same level of intimacy you once had.
This dream might be a sign to take the initiative to spice up your relationship. Remember, only you are responsible for your own happiness.
It’s also likely that you may be yearning for novelty, emotional connection, liberation, independence, adoration, or sexual intensity that’s lacking in your present relationship. Consider discussing it with your partner and if they’re not willing to work it out with you, simply end the relationship before engaging in sexual activity with another person.
If, in your dream, you catch your partner cheating on you, this may be a metaphor for your lack of trust in your significant other. Perhaps they’ve already cheated on you before, or you have been betrayed in the past. You may not have chosen to have these trust issues, but if you decided to be with this person, you have to let go of the past hurts and move forward without harboring any resentments.
Moreover, this dream also suggests that you might be having disagreements with your partner about your finances or plans for the future. Bear in mind that trust and communication are key pillars of any relationship. If you want your relationship to flourish, you have to do your inner work and learn to communicate with compassion and honesty.
It’s also common to have dreams about cheating when you’ve been suspecting that your partner is having an affair in real life. Your subconscious might be making an exhibition of the worst-case scenarios to cushion the blow of the possible betrayal.
Another interpretation suggests that having these dreams means that you’re having an affair or have been lying to your partner about something. If you find yourself cheating in your dream, this may be an indication that you’ve been flirting with someone else and holding back from acting upon it. Your conscious mind might be in denial, but deep down, you know that emotional cheating is still cheating.
Dreams about cheating could also symbolize your lack of credibility. Perhaps you’re wishy-washy about your beliefs and opinions, or maybe you’ve taken credit for someone else’s idea in your workplace. Maybe you’ve been living a lie or not being authentic when interacting with the people around you.
If you find yourself getting caught cheating or lying in your dream, this could be a warning sign that someone will see through your deception and unveil it to the world soon.
Dreams about cheating may also be a reflection of one’s underlying fear of abandonment. This fear might have stemmed from childhood experiences or past relationships that left you feeling unworthy and unloved. When you have dreams about cheating, it might be a sign that you’re scared that your partner will leave you.
Your mind conjures up this dream to think its way out of stress, fears, and anxiety. It will bring to the surface the issues you haven’t healed from. Having dreams that feature cheating suggests that you need to acknowledge these abandonment issues, figure out a way to work through them, and learn how to be okay regardless of who decides to leave or stay in your life.
Fear of Commitment
Dreams about cheating, particularly before a wedding, might be an indication that you’re having second thoughts about getting married. Perhaps the idea of spending the rest of your life with one person has gotten your panic mode activated, and your subconscious mind is exploring all sorts of exit strategies or worst-case scenarios.
According to some psychologists, dreams about cheating may be a reflection of your low self-esteem or insecurities you have about your relationship. Perhaps your relationship is treading on thin ice, and it’s not working out the way it used to. Or maybe you got passed up on a promotion that made you doubt yourself and feel like you’re not good enough.
If you let your insecurities be in the driver’s seat, it may ruin your relationship. If you’ve been on social media for a while and spent quite an amount of time going through your partner’s followings and comparing yourself to them, your insecurities were likely triggered. Consider taking a break from social media, discuss your feelings with your partner, and figure out a way to work things out.
If you dream about cheating or catching your partner cheating, this might be reflective of the uncertainties, disagreements, or sexual dissatisfaction you have in your relationship. Perhaps you have some unprocessed baggage from the past that’s holding you back from fully putting your trust in your partner.
Dreams in which you find yourself cheating may also denote that you’re not secure in your relationship. Perhaps your partner has been dismissing your concerns, not spending enough time with you, or has been acting cold lately. You might be suspecting that they’re having an affair or is no longer in love with you. Create an open line of communication to discuss these issues with your partner.
They’re Actually Cheating
Dreams about cheating could also imply that your partner might actually be cheating on you. Even though it’s rarely the case, your subconscious might be bringing to the surface the red flags that you willfully ignored because you’re seeing them through rose-colored glasses or maybe because you don’t want to lose them.
Common Dream Scenarios about Cheating
Dreams about Your Catching Your Partner Cheat on You
Generally, dreams in which you catch your partner having an affair might be a sign that you’re unhappy and dissatisfied with your relationship. Your mind may be conjuring up possible reasons to end the relationship. This dream might also be a reflection of your own insecurities, fears, and codependency.
Having this dream might also indicate that your partner has been exhibiting some signs that they’re falling out of love with you. Perhaps they’ve been distant and neglectful of your emotional and sexual needs. Maybe they don’t treat you the same way they used to and are no longer making efforts to make you happy.
If this is the case, dreams about cheating are highly likely to infiltrate your dreamland. If their negligence is taking an emotional toll on you, consider talking to them about it. If they’re not willing to work it out, simply terminate the relationship and move forward.
Dreams about Catching Your Partner Cheat with an Ex
Dreaming about catching your partner cheating on you with an ex is pretty common, especially if you’ve recently talked about this particular ex or met them in person. This dream usually indicates that you might be feeling jealous or insecure. Perhaps you’ve been repressing this feeling because you don’t want to stir up drama, but it’s eating you alive on the inside.
This dream can be unsettling and leaves you with a deflated sense of anger. If your partner has been talking about their ex recently, perhaps this jealousy is warranted, and your dream might actually be telling you that your partner is still not over their ex. Consider talking with your partner first before jumping to conclusions. A lot of tension could’ve been easily resolved by honest communication.
Dreams about Catching Your Partner Cheat with a Stranger
If you dream about your partner engaging in sexual intercourse with a stranger, this might be an indication that you feel neglected or you haven’t been spending some quality time with your partner lately. Perhaps they’ve been working longer hours than usual, and you worry that they might be conducting sexcapades behind your back.
Dreams about Catching Your Partner Cheat with Someone You Know
Dreams that feature your partner cheating with someone you know have nothing to do with your relationship or your partner’s loyalty. This dream is more of a reflection of your insecurities and self-doubt.
Perhaps there’s someone in your circle that you’ve always looked up to and wanted to switch lives with. You might be imagining this person in bed with your partner because you feel inadequate for your partner, and you think that they’d be better off with that other person.
Dreams about Catching Your Partner Cheat with Someone You’re Close to
If in your dream, your partner cheats on you with someone you’re close to, like your best friend or a close relative, this usually suggests that you want them to get along. Perhaps they’ve had disagreements, and you just want to get them on the same page.
This dream might also be an indication that your best friend has something that you’ve always wanted. It could be good looks, financial prosperity, a baby, a huge house, a great sense of humor, or because they come from a functional family.
It’s possible that the career of your partner and that person you’re close to is flourishing and you feel left behind. Your dream might be playing out your hidden feelings of insecurities to bring them to your awareness and prompt you to work on them.
Dreams about Catching Your Partner Cheat While You’re Pregnant
According to researchers, dreams in which you catch your partner having an affair while you’re pregnant are usually caused by the influx of hormones in your system and the distress and heightened body awareness that comes along with being pregnant.
This dream may also be a sign that you’re feeling insecure about the changes in your body, and you worry about keeping your husband sexually attracted to you. It’s likely that you also have anxiety over your adequacy as a parent or how this baby might change your life.
Dreams about Cheating on Your Partner While You’re Pregnant
If you find yourself cheating on your spouse while you’re pregnant, it’s possible that you may be having conflicts with your partner recently, and you’re worried about how the baby will change your relationship. This affair in your dream might also be your brain’s attempt to get your mind off of your anxieties about labor and parenthood.
It’s possible that you might also be feeling sexually deprived, exhausted, and insecure lately. This dream might be your subconscious’ way to restructure the way you see yourself and make you feel attractive and worthy.
Dreams about Cheating on Your Partner While She’s Pregnant
Having dreams about cheating while your partner is pregnant could be a sign that you’re worried about how this baby will massively alter your life and the huge responsibility that comes along with being a parent. This dream might also be caused by the lack of sexual and emotional intimacy in your marriage.
Dream of Cheating Before Wedding
Dreams about having an affair before getting married are pretty common. This dream might be a reflection of your paranoia about fully committing yourself to another person. Marriage is a major change in your life, and it’s normal to feel nervous about it. This dream might be an indication that there are some issues that you need to address before making this commitment.
Dream of Cheating on Your Partner
Dreams in which you find yourself cheating on your partner could be a metaphor for your proclivity to take without giving anything back. It also reflects your Machiavellian tendency to do anything you want without considering how it may affect other people.
This dream might also represent your low standards, impulsivity, lack of moral compass, tactlessness, and avoidant personality. Having this dream might also be an indication that you think you’re better than everyone and you’re above rules and laws.
Dreams about Getting Caught Cheating
If you got caught cheating in your dreams may symbolize your feelings of guilt or betrayal to yourself. Perhaps you haven’t worked on that project you’ve always wanted to do, or maybe you’ve compromised your values or integrity in some way. This dream is a reflection of your inner turmoil and lack of clarity over your priorities in life.
Moreover, this dream could be an indication that you’re feeling guilty about flirting with someone and harboring feelings for them. It’s also possible that you’re having these dreams because you’ve been dishonest with your partner about something.
Dreams about Cheating on Your Partner with an Ex
Cheating with your ex in your dreams is usually a sign that you still have feelings for your ex. This dream could also be an indication that you may still have wounds from the past that you need to heal from that you may be bringing in your current relationship. Consider communicating with your partner about this and allow yourself the space to heal.
Dreams about Cheating on Your Partner with a Stranger
To see yourself cheating with a stranger on your dream means that you haven’t been spending time with your partner recently. Perhaps you’re preoccupied with work or your creative project, and your relationship is taking a backseat in your life.
While it’s necessary to nurture yourself and your own dreams before anything else, if your partner is important to you, try to carve out some time to spend some quality time together. If you want to focus on your dreams and discovering who you are, it’s probably better if you just end the relationship rather than stringing them along and causing unnecessary hurt.
Dreams about Cheating with your Partner’s Friend
This dream signals your desire to be on good terms with the people in your partner’s social circle. Perhaps you’re having trouble connecting with your partners’ friends because of differences in values and opinions. While you don’t necessarily have to be best friends, at least try to be cordial, understanding, and respectful.
Dreams about Cheating with Multiple People
If, in your dream, you find yourself in the middle of an orgy, this could be an indication that you might be having frustrations with your partner regarding sex. Perhaps they turned you down when you wanted to have sex or showed a lack of passion and enthusiasm during intercourse.
This dream can also be triggered when sex stops being an expression of love and becomes something that you just have to get over with. When you feel like the emotional connection is gone, communicate with your partner if they’re willing to work it out, and if they’re not, simply let go and move forward.
Dreams about Cheating with Someone Who’s Also in a Relationship
Having this dream does not necessarily mean that you want to be with this person. However, they might possess some of the traits you want your partner to have. Perhaps you want your partner to learn to cook or be more career-driven. This dream might also be a sign that you’re afraid to be alone, and your hidden fear of abandonment is rearing its ugly head.
Dreams about Being the Mistress
Dreaming about being the mistress is believed to be a representation of your destructive tendencies. Perhaps you’ve been letting your insecurities ruin your relationships, or you tend to push the people you love away. Dreams about being the “other party” rarely have something to do with your relationship but more about your own state of mind.
Dreams about Girlfriend Cheating
Dreaming about your girlfriend has a negative esoteric connotation. It means that you’re going to have some problems with your business. This dream may also be a forewarning about an impending financial setback, death of a loved one, getting laid off at work.
Dreams about Boyfriend Cheating
Recurrent dreams about your boyfriend cheating might be a sign that he’s been taking advantage of you in some way. Perhaps he recently lied to you over something, or you feel like he’s not treating you the way you want to be treated.
If you’re in a perfectly happy relationship, this dream might be a reflection of your own insecurities, paranoia, fear of abandonment, or jealousy. It could also be an indication that you’ve been spending so much time worrying about your partner’s infidelity and not doing enough for yourself. Perhaps your life has been revolving around your relationship, and you haven’t been working on your dreams.
Dreams about Husband Cheating
Having dreams about your husband cheating may signify that you trust people more than they deserve. This might be a warning sign from your subconscious that you need to be wary of the people you share your secrets with. You may be strong enough to handle any kind of betrayal, but by carefully picking out the people you surround yourself with, you’ll be able to avoid disappointment and hurt.
Dreams about Wife Cheating
Dreams about your wife cheating usually represent that you’re having problems in your marriage. Perhaps you have constantly been fighting over the same issues, or your sex life has been in a perpetual state of drought. Maybe your wife has been inattentive, distant, and has been spending more time with her friend.
This dream could also be triggered when you’ve realized recently that you don’t share the same perspectives, goals, and dreams. Consider discussing your concerns with your partner before jumping to any conclusion. Remember that even though you don’t agree on some things, you can still synergize and support each other’s dreams.
Dreams about Cheating Death
Dreaming about cheating death is a wake-up call that you need to start living your life to the fullest. Perhaps you’ve been squandering your time binge-watching Netflix or arguing with someone on social media. This dream urges you to be more present in your life, show up for yourself and start working on your dreams.
Dreams about Cheating on an Exam
This dream is a reflection of your anxiety and self-doubt. If you have a test coming up, you might be feeling nervous, and you want to excel at it. This dream could also be a symbol of your need for validation. Perhaps you’ve been overstraining yourself to gain the respect of your peers and your family. Take a step back and remember that the only validation you need is your own.
Cheating dreams usually reveal more about a person’s innermost emotions. This could be your subconscious way of releasing stress, anxiety, and negative energy. However, it could also be a message from your subconscious warning you about a possible betrayal.
In this article, we’ve discussed some general spiritual meanings of dreams about cheating. Feel free to cross-reference this information with your own personal history. Tap into your inner wisdom to figure out what your dream means.